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By Shazia hasan
Email address: s_hasan21@hotmail.com

Improving Quality of Life for "Special Persons"

Article by Shazia Hasan (JAWS Expert and Counselor for Special Persons)

Many world surveys and studies conducted by independent health organizations
have proved that there is alarming rise in the number of persons suffering
from social and emotional disorder and need therapy to correct their
situation. The changing life style, growing social and family pressures and
economic
conditions etc. add to this condition. In case of Special children and their
families the social and emotional disorder becomes more acute as they have
to live with the disability.

While seeking the diagnosis and treatment of any ailment, one chooses the
qualified and right professional guidance. Similarly, it is very important
to
have a Professional Guidance in determining the visible or dormant existence
of social and emotional problems. Determination of the problem and guidance
from an unqualified person offering professional counseling (therapy)
normally worsens the condition.

In case of therapy (counseling), it is all the more important to seek the
guidance from a qualified person because the person (patient) can neither
see
the effect of therapy immediately nor can he have consultation for second
opinion.

In order for my readers to understand the counseling and why I recommend
this to "special persons" and their families, I am giving brief description
of
conditions in social and emotional disorder.

Counseling

Counseling is a name of an affective and cognitive therapy. In counseling we
aim at solving the problems with the help of 2-way conversation with out the
help of Medicine. A counselor can help those persons who suffer with any or
combination of the following conditions;

A: Depression - caused by loss of loved ones, loss of sight or limbs etc.
change of environment, job loss etc.
B: Behavioral problems resulting in aggressiveness, passiveness, eating
disorders, compulsive disorders, personality problems, mood disorders and
learning
problems etc.
C: Anxieties resulting in general anxieties, panic disorder, fears,
suspicion etc.
D: Phobias resulting in night terrors, social phobia etc.

Emotional Disorder conditions for Parents

In case where the very first child is a special child, parents experience an
emotional setback. Different parents develop different phobias e.g
considering
it a divine punishment, considering it an act of revenge by someone jealous
with them. Parents need to understand the cause for this type of special
child
and the way they should do the upbringing of such child.

In case where one or more of the siblings are special child, the situation
gives the parents all the above mentioned phobia and in addition confronts
with
the situation of upbringing the special child without causing disparity and
feel of extra attention by some or lack of attention by others.

In case of over-pampered special child, he gets more frustrated with the
society when he does not get the same extra attention to which he has been
made
habitual by the parents.

It is sometimes difficult for parents to understand their special children.
As these children are shy and more sensitive than other children. It is
therefore
necessary to open the channels of communication between parents and special
children.

Emotional Disorder conditions for Special Children

As we know that special children, particularly blind children have
limitations in various fields of life. That is why these persons develop
feelings of
being unwanted, feeling of helplessness, feeling of nervousness, feeling of
worthlessness, frustration, rejection and confusion. It is necessary to help
them in coping with such unreal feelings.

A counselor can make a special child to find his or her own ways of life.
Accept the handicap and try to develop the special faculty or caliber with
which
the child has been blessed. Thus develop his/her personality and live in his
own way. Counseling helps them to realize their self and to make them
understand
causes that is bothering them in achieving their goals and how they can
overcome with their loss and how would they improve their daily living
skills.

My Own Experience

Being a blind girl, I have gone through most of these phases myself and with
the support of my family and friends and my own determination, I have
overcome
the limitation. I am therefore briefly describing my own experience so that
other special persons could benefit from my experience. All the surgical and
medical assistance could not save my sight which I lost when I was only 8
years old child. I would think that I have lost everything in my life and
often
faced difficulty adjusting with my limitation and integrating in the
society. Not only my ambition to become an engineer or doctor was lost for
ever, even
becoming a useful member of the society appeared distant.

A person lives with his family and society. While fortunately, I had a very
understanding and co-operative family, I had problems adjusting in the
society
or the society accepting my limitation. With the passage of time, these
feelings grew stronger till I found an opportunity which slowly but surely
turned
my negative thinking towards positive thinking.

This opportunity was offered by a new software, JAWS. This software brought
joy and happiness when I started learning computer with its help. Jaws made
me very independent. While surfing the web I learnt that blinds are doing
counseling in Europe and USA. I knew that counseling is very useful for
special
children and parents. But unfortunately the individual counselor for special
persons was not available in our lovely Country. In order to fill this gap
I decided to become a counselor for special children and their parents. When
I discussed my ambition with some leading Therapists, I was very much
encouraged.
A prominent Centre providing counseling and therapy with the help of leading
Psychologists arranged counseling course for me. I have successfully
completed
the course and have received certificate of recommendation from the Centre.
My confidence has further been strengthened after I started giving
counseling
to special persons and finding very distinct change in their attitudes. They
have developed positive attitude towards life and have determination to live
with their limitation as a productive member of the society.

It will be my pleasure to be of service to special persons and their parents
who may be needing my services.

Contact:
s_hasan21@hotmail.com f
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