always be calm

ANGER MANAGEMENT


“Anger is the key that opens the door to all kinds of vices” – Imam Hassan Askari (a.s)
A man came out of his home to admire his new car. To his horror his little son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, and hammered the little boy’s hand into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital. Upon taking a closer look, the man saw that his little boy had etched the words, “I LOVE YOU DAD” on the car.
Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy’s hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said “Dad, I’m sorry about your car.” Then he asked, “But when are my fingers going to grow back?’
Harmful effects of anger:
· Increases frustration
· Prevents one from finding a solution to the problem.
· Makes one physically sick
· It’s a cause for break in human relationships
· Anger is responsible for one of the most depraved human behavior – child & wife abuse.
Anger Management:
· "And if an evil suggestion comes to you from shaytan, then seek refuge in Allah, He is hearing and knowing." (Qur'an 7:200) Therefore when one is angry he should immediately say “`ûdhû billâhi min ash-shaytân ir rajîm”

· Do wudu The holy Prophet (s.a.w.w) has said "Anger from shaytan, shaytan from fire; fire is put out by water; so when angry do wudu"
· Change body position. Our Prophet (peace and blessings be unto him) said, "If one of you gets angry while standing, he should sit. If he is still angry, he should lie down."
· Divert attention away from the cause of anger and participate in strenuous physical activity aiming at letting steam out and relaxing muscles
· Be silent, don't speak. The Prophet (peace and blessings be unto him) said, "Teach, simplify, don't complicate and if you get angry be silent
· Try to pinpoint the exact reasons why you feel angry. Once you identified the problem, consider coming up with different strategies on how to remedy the situation.
· Forgive & forget. Remember the rewards and virtues of patience, mercy, and forgiveness. The Qur'an 42:47 speaks of forgiveness, "And those who avoid major sins and immoralities and when angry they forgive."